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Zero week challenge

Tuesday, February 21st, 2012

This year Jenn and I are trying something a little different. Starting tomorrow we’re starting the Zero Week Challenge. For the first week of Lent we aren’t going to spend any money. None. $0.

Why are we doing this? Well, besides looking for a way to recalibrate our approach to spending and money in general, Lent starts tomorrow.

In the history of the Christian church, Lent is typically a 40-day season where in preparation for Easter Christians would adopt certain attitudes or prayer or repentance, or sometimes fasting or giving up of certain behaviors. Often a combination of new attitude and abstinence are combined, so that if you give up chocolate for lent when you crave chocolate you use the craving as a trigger to pray.

It’s a great spiritual discipline or practice, though by no means does it impute any special holiness or Christianity+.

For this Zero Week Challenge, there’s a two-fold idea. First, that we’re setting aside unintentional consumption and buying for Lent. Secondly, that in those moments we usually buy, we can turn to moments were we pray or give or reflect or any number of other practices.

Clearly there are big challenges to this. We need to have our family provided for in advance. A week without spending isn’t intended to be a week without eating or driving. So we’re filling up the gas tanks tonight and our grocery runs are complete. We’ve tried to ensure that what needs we have are covered for the next week.

I’m not sure if we’ll succeed. And I’m not sure what the impact of success would be. In fact, I’m not even sure what success would look like. Spending less money? Spending less often? Reflecting on the gap between real and perceived need?

But I am sure that for this week we’re going to try and spend no money at all. Bills that are coming up have been paid. Upcoming needs have been planned for. And whatever else comes up we’re planning on just passing on. Then we’ll see what happens. If it’s healthy and has a positive impact on our lives, we’ll probably do this again.

If you’re looking for something to try this Lent, you’re welcome to join us. You can try a Zero Week Challenge too, or just resolve to abstain from casual spending for the season. If you do, let us know.

Parties and parties

Monday, February 20th, 2012

This year we’re trying to cut down on presents. For one, our kids don’t have a tremendous amount of need. But even more I’m not sure the best way to celebrate birth and to say “I love you” is to shower that child with gifts. There are surely better ways, or at least more moderated ways.

For the older kids we’re going to cut back on parties too. But for Arden, turning three, we didn’t want to trim back against her expectations too much. Especially since at three it’s hard to hear anything but “no parties”.

So she had three: One with our family, one with friends and one with Jenn’s extended family which happened yesterday.

Cake un-toppers

Biding

I was asking them to make funny faces

Mass

Seatmates

Dolled up

Pink party

Frozen

The family eyes are blue


Tutelage

Universal birthday pose

I wonder how many people like what they eat

Saturday, February 18th, 2012

In 1940, Americans spent about fourteen percent of their food budget on eating out; by 1975 it was up to twenty-two percent, and by 2010 it was forty-one.

What makes an elementary school performance enjoyable

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

Tonight at my son’s school there was a choral, orchestral and dance performance for grades k-3. As you can imagine the talent is, at best, raw. Historically that’s made all school gatherings tricky because as far as performance quality, there’s not much to work with. Granted the audience is as friendly as you can get and no one is really there for the talent anyways.

But given at most of the gatherings like this is majority of the audience isn’t there for any given performance. We sat through nine presentations before Sebastian’s group came on. What made a few of them work better than the others was the fun quotient. When the teacher programmed something fun for the kids to do the 5-minute show became instantly fun for everyone to watch. Sadly, few of those preceding 9 shows were fun. But the music teacher at his school picked songs people knew, had the kids march and dance and kept the whole thing short. Our other kids actually enjoyed the music portion because the emphasis was on fun rather than performance.

So we actually stuck around for the last group. Sure that was in part because most of the audience was gone by that part and we felt bad for the last group of kids. But she rewarded us and the final song was “Good Night” from the Sound of Music.

The whole thing was a good reminder to me. Unless your quality is truly exceptional, people will always prefer to engage with what’s fun.

Really, really happy

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

Johnny Barnes spends 6 hours a day on a corner waving at cars in Bermuda, telling people he loves them. It’s endearing and based on this video Mr Barnes seems significantly impact people in Bermuda.

The only thing I get hung up on is whether love can really be love if it’s so impersonal. Regardless, the video’s title, “Mr Happy Man”, is certainly accurate. This guy is seriously happy, his happiness is infectious and we could all do to wave and love people a little more often.

Mr. Happy Man from Matt Morris Films on Vimeo.

Love, love, love

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

You can tell the day will be full of love when you wake up to this.

Love and cholesterol

Love is in the air, and on the walls

She’s three!

Monday, February 13th, 2012

Three



Lately at bedtime Arden’s been asking for me to tell the story of when she was born. Then for the stories about her siblings being born. It’s become her nightly routine. Fitting, because today is her birthday which makes me mindful of her birth.

Three years ago today on a Friday morning Jenn woke me with the news she was in labor. Because Jenn’s previous labor was so quick we were ready with plans to make sure we didn’t need to risk life and limb to get to the midwife in time. We called her mom to come over. Then, because her mom lived two hours away, we called our friend Stephen. He’s only 10 minutes down the road. He still wasn’t close enough.

ALmost immediately after we made the calls, Jenn realized she was ready to deliver the baby. So I put in a movie for the kids and drove her 5 blocks to the birthing center. Then I drove home to wait for Stephen. He showed up a few minutes later and I returned to Jenn’s side. The first thing the midwife told me is that she should’ve been pushing, but wanted to wait for me. She did wait for me.

Less than half an hour later, we had a beautiful new baby. I think we were both expecting a boy, because I checked three times before I was ready to proclaim we had a daughter. That left us stuck on names though. We loved the named Arden, but anticipated using it for a boy. But after very little discussion we realized that was the name for our little girl.

Now she’s not so little. Sure she does little things still. She pronounces it “flamily”. Her shoes are nearly always on the wrong feet. More often its the glimpses of the older Arden that stand out. Her tendency to structure the world around her. How she pays attention to emotions and always looks to tend to the downhearted.

Today she is three. Tomorrow she’ll be grown up. In between we’ll get to help her and love her and challenge her. What a lucky pair of parents we are.

Arden!

Beautiful

View from above


Stooges, every one.

She was less interested in the hunt than she was in the treats

Howdy Partner



Stopped, dropped and rolled

Style

Too cool for preschool



Watching the bird watcher

Wonderfully cold

Hugs and head holding

Trance-fixed


Hoping

Sunday, February 12th, 2012

Wouldn’t it be awesome if I wasn’t sick this week? Here’s to hoping a good’s night sleep help makes that dream a reality.

Not taking the dark side of the force seriously

Saturday, February 11th, 2012

Not taking the dark side of the force seriously

How do you solve childhood obesity?

Friday, February 10th, 2012

On Saturday morning Jenn and I are going to hear Michelle Obama speak at a Let’s Move event that our church is hosting. Their goal is to “[solve] the challenge of childhood obesity within a generation.” Their sites states their means to achieve that goal involves parental education, better school meals, family access to better food and helping kids become physically active.

According to the US government, there are 75 million children in the States. 30% are overweight or obese. So how do you get 25 million kids to be healthy?

It’s not an impossible problem to solve. Nations at war suffering energy shortages convinced 100% of their populations to conserve through the adoption of daylight savings time. The US had a similar health problem in the 40s. When the US ran it’s first draft boards more than 10% of the first million draftees were rejected because of malnutrition.

To solve that health crisis the United States turned to artificial vitamin fortification of bread. The defense industry and the baking industry joined in a huge propaganda campaign to push children and parents both toward buying the enhanced bread. The campaign was successful and the combination of industry change and behavior change lead to a major shift in American diet.

What’s the modern solution? School lunches would be a great place to start. But Congress voted against that as a place of reform with a weak bill initially aimed at reforming school lunches that, among other failures, counts pizza as a vegetable. The bill was signed last month and the subject is unlikely to receive further legislative attention soon.

What’s left? You could try to convince parents to feed their children better. Or children to eat better. But that’s been happening for years (food pyramid anyone?) and doesn’t seem to work. You could try to shame snack manufacturers to reform their ways, but they’re the ones who ruined the new school lunch law.

So we’re left with hope. Which isn’t nothing. And I’m left with a sense that something more radical is required or we’ll have an increasingly unhealthy youth population who turns into an even less healthy adult population.

Do we start college funds for every child and fund them based on health? Right now we scholarship for intelligence and work ethic but as a matter of public costs don’t we have as much incentive to have a healthy population?

Do we genetically alter negative calorie vegetables to taste like candy so that kids reach for CelerSweet after school instead of a candy bar? Ban cars so that everyone has to bike or walk or run everywhere? Reinstate the draft and make everyone spend a high calorie burn weekend training monthly for the National (Waist) Guard starting at 12?

Regardless, the idea that 25 million kids are in bad health should motivate every one of us into some action. It’s unlikely it would impact the whole but at very least you can feed your kids well, play with them outside and make sure everyone sleeps. That, and hearing what the First Lady have to say on Saturday, are my plans for now.